Apply the 25th Amendment–Now

​It’s way too dangerous to leave Trump in charge for even one more day.

To Vice President Pence, Cabinet members, and Congress: 


Thank you for your courage, those who spoke out and who headed back to the work at hand after the coup. But Americans need to know Trump will not be allowed to continue destroying us, which is why I’ve written what’s below. 

You’ve had over four years’ warning.  Please don’t wait one more day. There’s a deranged monster in the White House. He’s been given an absurd amount of leeway to commit one atrocity after another against our democracy, the American people, and the environment. Americans as well as the rest of the world are horrified, and some are indeed terrified, by his coup attempt.

Don’t leave someone in the White House who does this. Take him out of there, or at least remove all his powers immediately, and let Pence or Pelosi take over until Inauguration day. Stop the damage now, or it will go on and on for the next two weeks. Just before the coup there was evidence of yet another of his myriad cruel decisions made while most of us weren’t looking (we had some distractions, like dying of Covid), as the auction of drilling leases in Alaska’s National Wildlife Refuge were announced. Trump’s sneaky underhanded ways are just one of the many reasons we should have stopped him long ago. 

For weeks overwhelmed hospitals treating Covid have been ignored and abandoned by him. People desperate for vaccines can’t get them since he never even tried to make a national plan, and he lets the states flounder as more people sicken and die. He’s completely without a conscience, and destroys everything he can, often enjoying his own deplorable actions.  Now there’s no telling what his rage will cause him to do. It’s egregiously irresponsible not to remove him.

This was not only a coup, but a coup in a nation struggling for air, reeling from this horrific pandemic, with millions in dire need of any possible relief, the millions this dictator has never cared about. If you don’t act now you will be helping him on his venomous rampage. In the process you’ll be contributing to further suffering and loss of hope, not just for most Americans, but for the world.

Please also waste no time in rounding up the MAGA mob who attacked our capital, and give them some jail time. While they’re in there, force-feed them some lessons in world history and in tolerance. But, with the future in mind, also let them know that Biden will work hard to get good jobs for them so they can feel more secure, since fear–which often leads to anger–seems likely to be a motivator for some of them. ​We need also to find ways to communicate to them about the dangers of cults, which are so often run by c​orrupt or even deranged people. Th​ese attempts to get through to them won’t matter to those who join just because they enjoy committing mayhem or are motivated by hate, but it may sway many others if we do it right.

Meanwhile we can hope and pray that certain Republicans change their ways by not repeating Trump’s methods of messaging such groups and then using them to get more power and money. Any such actions in the future must be condemned, and early on.

The monster’s family needs to leave the White House too, or at least to be completely ignored. The social media sites that blocked Trump and some of his henchpeople ​for twelve hours ​need to keep them blocked much longer. ​It’s good that Facebook will now block them indefinitely. The others should do the same.

We the American people don’t deserve to go through this trauma or to be this scared right now, when many of us are already suffering from severe anxiety, depression, job loss, hunger, and homelessness. The biggest bullies attack the already-downtrodden; it’s so easy. 

You know what you have to do. It’s the right thing. Get the delusional dictator out of the White House, now. He has committed treason. Getting him out is the least you can do.

It’s 2021 and Time for a Change

Only by Working Together can we End Covid, and End Current Shocking Threats to our Democracy

I write about stress in American cities, but of course stress and its relative, depression, are almost everywhere just now. Most of us are feeling pretty low about the pandemic, and frightened about what’s going on in Washington. Just as I was finishing the post, it was announced that President Trump threatened Georgia’s Secretary of State, trying to force him to add made-up votes so it looks like he won in Georgia. It’s amid the furor created as a result of this mob-boss-like attack on our democracy that I want to encourage all of us to work together to protect that democracy, and to end the ravages of this terrible pandemic.

If you’re up on what people are going through with Covid just now you can skip this section, but I’ve put some of the latest here to illustrate all the agony for which one man is largely responsible–Trump. I do have hope that we can triumph over and begin to decrease the travesty and destruction of the past year. It’s hard to maintain that hope, since some of the darkest days in many decades, for our country and much of the world, are now upon us. To begin, here’s what we need to fix:

Hospitals and healthcare workers are stretched to the limit, physically and psychologically, as are of course patients, their families, and the growing numbers of jobless, hungry, and homeless. One nurse feels as if he’s treading water a hundred feet below the surface, trying to reach the top but never getting there, so all he can do is keep treading. Another cries as she describes how she and her colleagues can’t intubate patients who desperately need it, and can’t even sedate them because there aren’t enough supplies. Know that many of this virus’s effects are too unbearable to go through without sedation. With proper leadership at the top this horror would have been fixed immediately. In fact with a different President it never would have occurred.

So misery beyond imagining, for many months now, has been caused by Trump, master of non-caring, who will be forever deemed responsible for the deaths and suffering of many thousands. Think how many might have survived had he taken the reins and acted like a leader. If he couldn’t lead, one hoped he might turn into at least a halfway competent human being with something like a heart rather than a stone in his chest. But now we know better. Or do we?

He’s also raised most of our the blood pressures with his golfing, sulking, and tirades while simultaneously putting our democracy (emphasis on “our”) in danger repeatedly. He doesn’t get that if he succeeds in his power grab that the country will no longer be what it was. It will at best be a shaky shell of itself. He’ll be the president who destroyed the United States.

It’s almost impossible to imagine how, with all of America’s misery laid out right in front of them, Trump and his cowardly buddies don’t even try to hide their belief that the only thing of consequence in this universe is their own wealth, elite position, and power. How can they bear to know people are struggling for their last painful breath, and desperate, exhausted doctors and nurses are trying in vain to comfort and save them, without helping? Right now the doctors don’t even have enough oxygen for patients fighting for air. What kind of monster will Trump’s party be willing to accept as a future leader if they can accept this barbarism as leadership?

The lack of vision, the arrogance, and the sheer depth of utter selfishness are in the open, plain to all of us except perhaps to the unhappy base who live in fear of nonexistent threats and sadly continue to feed their hard-earned dollars to Trump and Co. But it is Trump and Co. who will be excoriated down the centuries. Their actions have lead to one of the most colossal and tragic failures of leadership and morality in the history of the world.

Congratulations, Trump and cronies. You’ll always be remembered.

(Members of Trump’s base, please have a look at the short section following this one, titled Special Message for Trump Supporters and Base. It’s written with the hope that we can work together for a better future.)

When I get depressed, I try to help someone. Happiness experts say it’s one of the best things we can do–good for the helper and helped! There are powerful actions we can take to aid those fighting to help the ill, hungry, and homeless, to preserve our democracy, to turn around climate change, to make peace and not war, to stop hatred, violence, and tyranny of all kinds, and to put an end to the cruelties inflicted on so many by the other bullies and dictators of the world. Even our smallest effort is of enormous value. Just smiling at someone you don’t know is remarkably powerful.

Some other examples of how we all can help:

Give patients, medical workers, necessary workers, and everyone you’re in contact with a chance to remain healthy and able to work by keeping your distance, washing hands often, and wearing a mask. Maybe even two masks when you enter a store, since many people’s masks slip off their noses. It’s more important than ever to do this since now we have many new variants of the virus that are even more infectious. Make sure your mask covers your nose. I walked out of a coffee shop today because the barista’s mask was completely off his nose and he was making my drink. He was also endangering his colleagues at the shop.

If you’re so lucky as to be offered a vaccine, try to fight any fears by educating yourself. If you have allergies or other conditions, ask your doctor to help you figure out if it’s safe for you to take it. The more of us who take it, the faster the pandemic ends. Some of the conditions may take some time to be clarified. I’m very allergic to the anti-nausea drug Compazine. Is that a problem or not? I don’t know yet and my doctor doesn’t either, but she’s trying to find out, and hopefully she’ll know within a few months as more is learned.

If you must wait like me, the best thing you can do is observe all the above safety precautions. The next vaccine that’s developed may be better for you and me if the current ones aren’t. Once we get our shots, whether or not we have known allergies or other conditions, we can make sure they watch us for the recommended time after the shot (I’ve heard both 15 and 30 minutes). It sounds to me as if all of the health workers know to do that. But if they don’t, ask. Make sure they have handy such treatments as Epi-pens, etc. to counter any unexpected reactions. Again it sounds like that’s required wherever they vaccinate.

Volunteer. I hear often about the joy people take in volunteering, have enjoyed it myself, and highly recommend it, though for some of us it’s not yet safe to work next to others. But we can do a lot of good by working on projects at home or by donating to groups who are helping in many causes. Get creative. I read about a woman who converts political yard sign frames into tools for the disabled.

In this atmosphere of violence and hatred that’s been ramped up since Trump appeared, we can do good by simply acting with newly conscious kindness and empathy. Don’t underestimate the power of kindness. We can be kind to neighbors and colleagues, and learn to appreciate, if not love, all people of all sorts, those we know and those we don’t.

Work to stop any suffering you know of, in both humans and animals, including animals raised for food. They are so helpless, and if you don’t think so, go to a farm and pet a lamb or goat. It can change your life. Animal agriculture is one of the biggest casues of global warming.

CharityNavigator.org is a good place to find organizations you can donate to in order to help solve problems and end suffering both near you and throughout the world. Just a few of the many good organizations that I like are World Wildlife Fund, Environmental Defense Fund, Union of Concerned Scientists, World Central Kitchen, and Feed America. Some may have chapters near you where you can help in person.

Help President-elect Biden counteract the destruction by Trump of so much that is precious to our country, our people, and the world. Don’t think politics, just think kindness, empathy, and good, caring leadership, and you’ll know who to depend on and support. Even if Biden isn’t your favorite person, he has a good heart and a lot of wisdom and good will–exactly what we and the world need right now.

Be kind to yourself too. Reach out for help with anxiety and depression if you’re suffering from them. There’s no longer a stigma about this, and if anyone acts as if there is, you don’t need to hang out with them. Almost everyone has experienced those problems at one time or another, some chronically, and especially during this past year. Anyone who hasn’t been depressed during the pandemic is indeed fortunate. If you are depressed or scared or anxious, you’re not alone! Help is there, much of it online with therapists, helpful groups, and more.

One last thing we can do to help turn things around in 2021 is to ask members of Congress to do everything they can to stop the dangerous and selfish charade of Trump and cronies trying to invalidate Biden’s win as our next President, an exercise that endangers our democracy and invites the world’s tyrants to take advantage of us while destroying our reputation as beacon of freedom and justice in the world. These people are participating in nothing less than a coup, an ethical, moral, and existential danger to this country, to your own and your children’s lives, and to all those in the world whose last hope was to get help from the United States of America.

Special Message for Trump Supporters and Base

Give science a chance, even if you’ve been doubting it. Try to see the major questions of our time outside of the political sphere. Use “slow thinking,” which I wrote about a few months ago, and ask yourself if you really find a conspiracy theory or a scary statement you heard to be believable. Check more widely for evidence, beyond the social media or news sites that promote these and other upsetting theories. Away from these sites, it’s widely believed that QAnon is just something someone made up (and may be making them rich as well). Don’t fall for it. It’s a sad, scary way to live. It’s so much better for your mental health just to put your energy into helping others, maybe right there in your community.

Many people from both parties have noted that Trump’s base is being used largely to get more money for Trump to pay his legal and other bills after he’s out of office. You likely haven’t heard it if your news sources are only a few, but if it’s true, is that really where you want your money to go? Do you want to live in the atmosphere of hatred he seems to thrive on? If you believe the pandemic is not real, ask yourself how all this massive suffering and dying could be fake? Why did Trump need special expensive medicines most of us can’t get to cure his own case of Covid? Yet Trump has said again recently that the reported deaths from Covid are “fake news.” It isn’t even remotely possible to fake 350,000 deaths.

No Excuses

No Excuses

Around the world people are starving, others are suffering as war rages around them, water resources are endangered, rain forests are disappearing, the ever more dangerous effects of climate change are increasing, and fellow humans at home are under constant attack by people filled with hate, Instead of being a world leader in attacking these problems, our country’s leaders are busy avoiding the wrath of the NRA while mass murders continue to accelerate.

There is no excuse for this kind of supremely selfish, cowardly behavior in those in power in what used to be the leader of the free world. It’s an atrocity that background checks and banning assault weapons is even under discussion as people are mowed down or lie in hospitals wounded and dying, and millions of others  fear for their lives and the lives of their children.

Stringent background checks and banning of ALL assault weapons and ways to make them should be immediate with NO DISCUSSION.

To do less or wait one minute longer can be considered nothing other than immoral, unethical, and yes, criminal. Leaders who are blocking this, and NRA, this is what you are will be remembered for.

A Note to and for Haters, Killers of All Kinds, and Certain Government Officials

I’ve been writing about hate and killing for some time now since they’re hardly compatible with my goal of helping us create less-stressed American cities. I agree with many of the suggestions offered by caring people about these matters, and here add my own specific ones, some of which may seem naive but–some readers tell me–that help them to feel more hopeful. I realize some of these suggestions will seem extreme to some (such as no guns, period). Yet in the end we have to get our heads out of the sand and acknowledge that the problems we to need solve in order to stop the violence are deeply embedded in our society, encouraged by leaders who are part of those problems. So it shouldn’t be surprising that the changes needed are dramatic. 

Our problems are not just from the bigotry now being considered fine by some, or from fear of those not like us, but also from our general acceptance of violence and weapons as necessary. Neither prejudice nor guns are necessary in a civilized society, and if we made the society more civilized with laws and whatever else it takes to show we value lives and peace, more of us would see that. (Isn’t a civilized society the goal? ) It’s not normal that some people see hate and violence as normal.

Each time there’s a massacre and whenever there’s cruelty or killing, I find I’m thinking the same thought. That is that along with gun control (at least) and the other changes most sensible people want, we also need deep and thoughtful change in our culture, and much of it should involve promoting kindness and empathy at every level and in every corner of the culture. Maybe that kind of change is what will finally convince those in elected office or otherwise in power that when they don’t act to stop mass murder and suffering, when their own personal goals come before the lives of others, they must accept some of the blame.

FOR THOSE WHO HATE

(The bold print below is accidental and so far we’ve been unable to return it to normal print. Please read as regular print–thanks.)

If you hate a certain group of people, or even one person, there are numerous ways you can turn off that hate, and it’s a good idea to try to do that. If you were trained to hate–and most people who hate have been trained–you owe it to others, to the world, and mostly to yourself to un-train yourself. There are many ways to do this. Practice empathy and kindness even if that’s new for you. Stop hanging out with other haters, and do whatever else you can to get yourself to the other side where you can learn about and begin to care for your neighbors. If you get to know your neighbors or acquaintances of other colors or backgrounds you’ll likely find they’re really cool people, nice to be with, and often have interesting life stories to tell. If you ask you’ll learn about their cuisine, how they like to party, what they miss from back home and what they love here. Your own life story is also of great interest–everyone’s is. So why not tell it to them, while removing prejudice, fear, rage, and cruelty from your mind. Then your life has a better chance to end up a happy and peaceful one, which is much harder to accomplish if you live in a cloud of hatred. 

Remind yourself that people can’t help where they were born, what color their skin is, or who their parents are. Put yourself in their shoes if they’re not like you, and stay there a few minutes. Realize that all most of them want is a chance to have a reasonably happy, healthy life, like you do. Many of us struggle with how to do that, and the struggle is hard enough without having to deal with hatred, violence, and the horrific loss of life mass shooters cause. 

If you’re still consumed with hate or the urge to harm, ask for help. One place you can get it is to google local mental health resources in your area and try to connect with one. One helpful national site (and group) is MHFA or Mental Health First Aid. Try going there to see their huge list of resources that can help with any kind of mental illness or pain. One of many helpful pages there is https://www.mentalhealthfirstaid.org/mental-health-resources/

Or go to a place online that’s about more positive emotions such as ways to be happier. One of many sites that may be helpful is https://www.sparringmind.com/be-happy/ . Or learn about how prejudices are formed, at a site like Very Well Minds, on this page:  https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-prejudice-2795476 

If you’ve read any history you may know that often the reasons people are taught to hate are based on false premises. A common human weakness is to find someone else to blame for our troubles even when it makes no sense. Other people may harm us at times, sure, but when entire groups, races, or religions are made into scapegoats you can bet the reasons for it don’t ring true. So stop believing things you hear coming out of the mouths of racists and bigots and get over your prejudices that some pathetic, clueless website, friend, or relative taught you. 

Look the rest of us straight in the eye and tell us that if you didn’t live here and were being persecuted or threatened, that you wouldn’t want to come to a freer country like this one where you thought you could be safe and have at least some kind of work. Persecuted people and refugees have done this throughout history. You know you’re a hypocrite if you say you wouldn’t do the same. Many immigrant families by the way come from places where family ties are close. This often makes them secure and loving people just because close families often foster those good feelings. That means they’re very nice people to know. All such families I’ve met tend to be warm, caring, and kind.

So please come out of the dark ages and stop accusing them of things they aren’t doing, and stop trying to hurt them. Maybe even try this: help them. Helping people makes the helper happier–too many researchers have found that to be true for you to doubt it. Try it. You’ll like it.

GUNS & THE ACT OF KILLING  

A great many people, myself included, believe there’s no excuse for killing for any reason, period. In fact by now we should have evolved enough as a species to be done with all killing including that done in wartime as a way to solve problems (we should be done with war as well). But even if we’re temporarily forced to participate in or suffer through wars by greedy, angry, selfish, and power-mad leaders, we don’t have to also kill each other at home.

As for guns themselves, they don’t belong in a peaceful, civilized society, end of story. Hunters, you won’t like this, but even killing animals for whatever reason has got to bring out something in you that cringes, doesn’t it? Truly evolved humans, in my view, should abhor inflicting pain on any other living thing. As long as a bunch of us go ahead and kill things (and most of us really don’t need that deer meat do we?) it will be easier for humans to find killing and maiming okay. 

That’s why I believe guns of ANY kind should be banned, and nothing short of that is acceptable. I’m not a naive wacko, I’ve just had enough. Haven’t you? Let’s say you still insist on having a gun. Whether or not you’re a member of the NRA, don’t you find it outrageous and kind of sickening that this group that tries to keep lots of guns around at all costs actually controls many of our elected officials? 

TO CERTAIN GOVERNMENT OFFICIALS

You’re not fooling anyone when you act only to protect your title as representative or senator or President, while letting suffering and injustice continue. No rep of mine who does that will ever get my vote again. Act to protect people from hate and gun violence now, and get ALL of it done, not just tiny steps.  And no I don’t want the death penalty–that’s just more violence, cruelty, and death.  Enough. 

OTHER KILLING IN OUR CULTURE ADDS TO THE GENERAL VIOLENCE

Because I believe that killing anything makes killing something else easier, I also believe we should stop the horrifying practice of animal agriculture. We may not personally hear the tortured, terrified cries of animals headed to and going through slaughter, but we know they’re out there, 24 hours a day. We know unless we lie to ourselves that that pain we cause, directly, or indirectly with our dollars, can’t be good for us either. When we do such things to other living things it should ring alarm bells in us, and I believe it would go along way toward creating a happier, more peaceful culture if we paid attention to those alarms.

Besides it also being awful for the environment and the fact that we can feed many more people with plants, continuing this practice means a certain number of humans–many who would rather not have such jobs but can find no other—will be forced to carry out that cruelty for hours a day even if it causes them great personal pain (the evidence is that it does for many of them, and they are never the same again).


I’m convinced that one day slaughtering for food as well as hunting for “sport” will be universally decried for the barbarous acts they are, that we’ll be seeing very few mass killings of people then as well, and that those two changes will be at least somewhat connected. This is why I include comments about animal killing when I write about hate and mass shootings of humans. Killing and causing suffering is too widely accepted in our culture, even though most of us don’t participate. It’s in the air too much. So I’m suggesting a holistic approach to stopping violence by stopping all violence of all kinds, so we get out of the habit of seeing and accepting it.

(Note: For a more detailed piece on some of these ideas, go to this blog’s first-ever post, written after the Parkland massacre.)